If you’ve been held prisoner by an emotional manipulator or narcissist and want to break up with him, writing him a letter will be easier than confronting him face to face! No more lies, no more submission, no more fear, no more manipulation! Here is a letter to break up with an emotional manipulator or narcissist.
Letter to break up with an emotional manipulator or narcissist :
I chose to write to you rather than confront you face to face.I don’t want to, I will not be a target for your perverse manipulations anymore. I don’t want to stand by while you degrade me and tell me how right you are. I don’t want to convince myself that I don’t deserve you and that you’re better, yes, so much better than I am! I don’t want to bury my face in my pillow for hours while I cry, a pillow that still smells of you. I don’t want to be fooled by the good Chris, the repentant Chris. I don’t want your eyes on me, I don’t want your mouth to judge me, I don’t want you to touch me, I don’t want your emotional blackmail, I AM NOT AFRAID OF YOU ANYMORE.
I can picture you enraged as you read this letter.
Hysterically planning your next move to destroy me. Because that’s what you want, isn’t it Chris? You want to destroy me mentally, you want me to disgust myself! True, you had me in the palm of your hand, and I haven’t entirely crawled out of it yet, but I can’t take it anymore. I am empty, you stole my energy, you made me weak and fragile, you made me your puppet and held me on a string – and all the while I worshiped you with a faith you never deserved!
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What are you going to do?
A bazillionth suicide threat? Threaten to burn down my apartment? To run over my cat? You’re mad, Christopher, mad! And I never want to have to live with a narcissistic pervert such as you again! Do you realize you pressured me into abandoning my friends? That you’ve always acted the perfect gentleman in front of my family only to better stab me in the back when we were alone? Do you realize that you’ve made a submissive woman out of me when I used to thrive at social events, at work, anywhere really? Does it make you proud? Mission accomplished? You wanted me to depend on you and so I have for eight years but now, it’s over. Yes Christopher, we’re done, you and I. And neither your threats nor blackmail will change my mind. My family knows about this, and even the cops are on call if ever you harass me or try to find out where I am.
I don’t want to be scared of you anymore, or of anybody for that matter.
You are weak, manipulating everyone, I would never believe you if you told me you were happy. If you hurt all those around you, you can’t be happy! But with the kind of crazy you are, who knows… maybe you feed on other people’s sorrow. You are toxic waste. Never come near me or those around me ever again.
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By the time you read this letter, I will have taken my things and you will be all alone.
Don’t try to call me, I changed my number. There is no point in contacting me, nothing, absolutely nothing you could do or say would change my mind. I wrote a good thousand drafts for letters such as this one before taking that step for real! It took me eight years to escape! But I’m walking away tall! My life can finally begin, now that I slammed hell’s door shut behind me, I can rediscover happiness.
I hope that you will one day realize you are not well, and get some help. But it has to come from you. You can’t go on breaking other people like that.